Abuse, emotional and physical Part I

It is with conviction, that I share on this very sensitive subject.  I have come across many infants, babes, children, youth, adults and aged who have somehow been victims of abuse.  Across all the earth in the human race, no matter where you are or live.

So many people suffer from emotional instability, even if they would be the hardest of heart, they don’t show it.  Many bury their pain deep in their soul and don’t realise it. Some are manipulated and controlled to such a degree, they stay silent.

If we walk in the Truth, are in –  and of the Covenant, it is so much easier to evaluate the situations we find ourselves in, to deal with it together with the power and knowledge, given to us by the Ruach HaKodesh  (Set-apart Spirit)  Those, who are not believers, don’t have the strength to work through their trauma, it is very difficult to work through alone.

Let us identify the cause of this suffering and pain.

Ephesians 6:11-12  Put on the complete armour of Elohim , for you to have power to stand against the schemes of the devil.  12  Because we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against authorities, against the world-rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual matters of wickedness in the heavenlies.

Shaul, Paul tells us that battles are indeed spiritual and nothing to do with the physical.  The enemies we face are not people or things, but the enemy at work in others.  Sadly the people who are used by the wicked schemes of the enemy, take the opportunity given.

Our spiritual enemies are identified as world-rulers and authorities, top levels of the evil spiritual forces.  It is an attack, by the dark forces, which are of a worldwide nature of this spiritual battle.

Having shared the above, those who are used by the enemy, will be judged if they do not repent.

Psalm 1:1 – 6   1  Blessed is the man who shall not walk in the counsel of the wrong, And shall not stand in the path of sinners.  And shall not sit in the seat of scoffers,  2  But his delight is in the Torah of YaHUaH,  And he meditates in His Torah day and night.  3  For he shall be as a tree planted by the rivers of water, that yields its fruit in its season, and whose leaf does not wither, and whatever he does prospers.  4  The wrong are not so, But are like the chaff which the wind blows away.  5  Therefore the wrong shall not rise in the judgement,  Nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous.  6  For YaHUaH knows the way of the righteous,  But the way of the wrong comes to naught.

Sadly, most of the abusers are those who are close to us and worse, they have authority over us.  We will discover the joy and freedom in the midst of this darkness, by clothing ourselves in the righteous garments and armour of Elohim.

I will share some of my testimonies.  I was always disliked by some people for some reason beyond understanding, I was not innocent, none of us are.  One thing the Set-apart Spirit showed me, is that not one person deserves abuse and in no way at fault for the abuse.  We may have fault, but in love and understanding, we are to be shown if we are needing correction.  An example that I experienced; one morning in first grade, five years old, not even into the second week of having started school, I was given an instruction to go straight away to the headmaster’s office.  Climbing the stairs unaware and anxious, I wondered what the reason was for this unexpected summons.  I received a fierce glance and the door shut behind me.  “sit on the chair,” he bellowed.  At this point, I began to hold my thumbs and climb up on the seat.  The reason for this encounter was that I was not eating my breakfast.  The stern glare on his face tormented me, why would he be so angry that I could not eat my breakfast and how did he know.  I told him, I was very nervous and scared;  looking back at that time, I was overwhelmed with nervousness, by not coping in class.  After the fearful lecture, he grabbed his whip and began whipping me with a violent temper.  I was terrified and wet his carpet and my clothing.  He yelled at me and told the secretary to clean up my mess.  Slowly walking down the stairs, with brokenness I could not understand what had just taken place.  Sitting in the class once again, my legs burning with the uric acid, I just wanted to hide myself.  Just recently I was going through all my papers and found my school reports.  I noticed the unkind words the principal wrote about my marks; for the duration he was there.  I struggled in school with learning and paying attention. It was simply, extremely difficult for me to cope.

I was at boarding school at seven years of age, in my third grade. One night, the person on duty, (who did rounds at night to check on all the boarders), found me returning to my bed.  She asked me what was I doing walking around, I told her I went to the toilet.  She said “you lie” and with that she slapped me in the face so hard.  I climbed into bed, buried my head in my pillow and cried.  She was my class teacher, she hated me.  To add to this pain, one morning, while changing into our PE clothes, I had knocked her weather vane ornament off the window-sill and it fell to the floor, crashing into pieces.  I fell on my knees grabbing all the pieces, saying sorry to her, she never answered me.  Both my parents have passed away, when I read the reports, I longed to discuss my difficulties at school with them.  They never knew and neither did the teachers recognise my difficulties.  Our Awesome Abba Father knew, He knows everything about us.  I have never told my parents about the abuse, for fear of getting a beating.

I was an abused child, youth and adult.  Emotional, physical abuse, but not sexual abuse.  But most of the abuse was emotional.  As unbelievable as can be, these sad experiences have helped me grow and develop maturely.  I am able to have so much love and empathy for others, understanding the pain they experience.  By the Ruach, who always guides and leads us into all truth, I see in my spirit, when some are hurting so much.   We need to be sensitive to the needs of others.  Giving in love and kindness.

Romans 12:13 – 17/19  13 imparting to the needs of the set-apart ones, pursuing kindness towards strangers.  14  Bless those who persecute you – bless and do not curse.  15  rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.  16  Be of the same mind toward one another.  Do not be proud in mind, but go along with the lowly.  Do not be wise in your own estimation.  17  Repay no one evil for evil.  Respect what is right in the sight of all men.

It goes on in the passage,          19  Beloved, do not revenge yourselves, but give place to the wrath, for it has been written,  “Vengeance is Mine.  I shall repay,” says YaHUaH.

This scripture comes from:    Deuteronomy 32:35  ‘Vengeance is Mine, and repayment,  at the time their foot slips; For near is the day of their calamity,  And the matters prepared are hastening to them.

I would like to continue on this page Title in Part II …  How to overcome spiritually and gain the victory in YaHUShA our Messiah.


Difficulties and the process of healing  ~  shared in the links below


Silent illness is never heard.

The little cracked cups


photo:  presenting flowers to the guest at our sports function    I had no idea that I would be asked to give flowers

principal standing behind the table

Abuse, emotional and physical Part II

Abuse, emotional and physical III



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